There is so much more involved in keeping romance alive than just candles, bubble baths, and foot messages. You each have to work at it to keep up and enjoy romance in your life. Here is how to feed the romantic fires in your relationship in a deep and meaningful way.
1. TELL THE TRUTH
Truth is the final aphrodisiac and a great way to create connection with your partner. For example, you might say “I feel safe when I am with you” or “Sometimes I feel scared that we get so busy with other things that we forget about creating close moments together, but I really want to be close with you.” Just share your true feelings and speak from your experience. If you are concealing in your relationship, you will not feel connected, so consider making truth an ongoing priority in your life.
2. APPRECIATE YOURSELF AND YOUR PARTNER
Appreciation means “to grow in value, or to be sensitively aware of.” Take time to understand just what it is that you like about yourself, and your partner. Saying such as, “I am doing a good job as a parent by taking time to hug the kids in the morning before they go off to school.” or “I really appreciate how dedicated you are to your job.” Successful relationships have a 5 to 1 ratio of appreciations to criticisms, so if you really want to heat up your relationship, start appreciating!
3. LISTEN
All humans crave being seen and heard. Being with your partner, and really listening to them can be magical for you both. Often, we want to fix their problems, but it is much more powerful to listen. Saying, “Wow, I can understand you are frustrated.” or “That must have been hard on you.” Let your partner know you’re hearing them.
4. CREATE ROMANCE WITHIN YOURSELF FIRST
We often try to “get” our partners to be more romantic by believing we need to change them to have what we want. The truth is that you are much more likely to have what you want when ‘you’ show up in that way. For example, create your own romantic mood–dress, put on music, prepare sensuous foods, take some time to love and appreciate yourself. It will not take long for your partner to join in the fun!
5. ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT
Let your partner know that you are deeply interested in spending some romantic time with them (You would be surprised at how often they are unaware of this.) Whining, demanding, and manipulating are contrary to creating romance, so do your best to ask using kind and loving words.
6. BRING PLAY BACK INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP
If you find yourself feeling unromantic, ask yourself when was the last time the two of you had fun together. Just plain, silly fun. Doing something like going to an arcade, playing a game, watching a comedy…anything that you may have enjoyed while you were dating or even when you were kids can help you to stay connected. Laugh a lot! Levity is a sexy thing. If you are stuck in thoughts of how much housework you have to do, or that you might wake the kids, more than likely you will not feel romantic. Laugh about the ways that you take your self out of a romantic mood, and soon, you will be back in it.
7. SPEAK YOUR PARTNER’S LOVE LANGUAGE
We often express love for our spouse in the way we want to receive it. But that is not necessarily the way they need to receive it. Ask your spouse what you can do to make them feel loved and share the same with them. When you give love to your spouse in a way that meets their particular needs, they become more open to expressing love in a way that meets your needs. If you do not share these needs with each other, you can become confused and disappointed.
8. ACCEPT EACH OTHER UNCONDITIONALLY, RESPECT EACH OTHERS WISHES AND DISLIKES
Keep the mystery and fascination to each other. Love each moment as if it is the last.
9. GIVE RESPECT TO YOUR PARTNER
Try to give respect to your partner. Don’t underestimate him/her, but try develop confidence her so that you both could get closer for a long time – maybe even a lifetime.
10. BE THERE FOR HER
Be supportive to her needs and always make time for her emotional needs. For example : If her parents are not well and she is the only child be there for her. Romance does not always mean being romantic but also being emotionally attached.
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